love and kindness do not fix things like discrimination or racism. stop putting responsibility of rehabilitating the aggressor or oppressor on the victim, it’s abusive.
I had a boyfriend not so long ago who, whenever we got into an argument, would accuse me of “going soap opera.” “Here comes Telemundo!” he would shout. His (clearly gendered and vaguely racist) insult was supposed to make me feel like my anger wasn’t valid—that it was frivolous and silly, that I was being overly dramatic. This was his not-so-subtle way of trying to shut me up—by accusing me of being emotional. (Unlike men, whose anger is always logical, of course.) Unfortunately, calling me out like this often worked. It felt immobilizing to be called dramatic. Even if you know you’re being reasonable, we’ve internalized sexism so much, sometimes we even begin to doubt ourselves.
from Jessica Valenti’s He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know.
I wish I had read this a couple years back because this was my life.
All of the stupid statements and stances taken by outsiders. Yes outsiders. I am a black straight man. I understand racism. Like it’s a college major. I have my PhD but im still reading, still engaging in order to learn more. A victim of racist physical attacks. Police brutality and racial discrimination. But I’m still learning. Think about that…something that directly impacts me…I’m still learning. If it’s an issue with the gay community I listen and stand with those being oppressed. If it’s sexism against women I listen and stand with those being oppressed. If I want to stop oppression, I must learn. Learning isn’t a 094 college course where one class gets me a degree that enables me to stand front and center. Learning isn’t silencing those that are directly impacted. But I see a lot of knowing. Men who are “feminists” while telling a woman they disagree with that they are “emotional”. Straight people speaking on behalf of the LGBTQ community while telling a transgender person to not get to “hostile” about being oppressed because it may hurt the cause. A white person who is “committed” to fighting racism getting praise(monetary gain) for fighting the good fight. Knowing is dangerous. Knowing is privilege. If you know so much about being oppressed as a group that you don’t belong to why are you benefiting while the very group that you are fighting the good fight isn’t seeing the same success? I guess you only know you…not well at that either.
There is no White History Month because whites hold all the power. There is no Straight Pride because heterosexuals hold all the power. There is no Men’s Rights Movement because men hold all the power.
If you are not being oppressed, your cause does not require awareness. You already have everything in your favor. Quit whining and recognize your privilege.
Lol, would you rather kill animals when you have no need or wear synthetics and spare their lives?
Because synthetic materials are not traditional and hold no value or meaning to us!
Which means you are killing animals for your own personal benefit!
“Personal benefit” huh? Like SURVIVAL
Give me a good reason how you jumped from tradition to survival because those two are not an equivalent in any way shape or form
In order for us to survive we need our traditions We respectfully coexist with the animals, we understand as a whole that their bodies are going to be used for the basis of survival (food, clothes, regalia, etc.) These animals are not killed in cold blood We do not kill them for our “personal benefit” Survival is not a benefit Our traditions are not a benefit We are not selfish You are
