how does ur boyfriend feel about u selling urself?

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seriously? there is nothing better to talk about?

I wouldn’t be selling myself; I would be selling a service. I said I was considering getting into sex work; and I am interested in webcamming.

As far as having a boyfriend I don’t know if I do or not. He rarely ever talks to me and I rarely ever see him anymore so i don’t know where that leaves us. But if I were in a relationship I wouldn’t get involved in camming. Thanks for pretending to care.

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7 years ago

To me it is sad that a woman has to resort to selling her body in order to feed her kids, bc there aren't any other options. That job isn't as glamorous as people wanna advertise it here... I'd rather scrub toilets.

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The amount of money per hour is far above any job I could get though. I could list all the financial struggles I am facing but I won’t. Just know that I am considering sex work out of desperation. I haven’t reached that level of desperation yet. I do realize that their are people who are abused in this line of work but if it comes down to it I will do what I have to do. I respect individuals who choose to be in this industry; I do not respect their abusers.

I would scrub toilets if the pay let me provide a safe home and necessities for my child.

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7 years ago

I find it sad that you're considering sex work, but I guess you're gonna do what you think it's best for you. In the end, I hope everything works in your favor.

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why do you find it sad?

7 years ago

Indigenous girls that go into sex work usually go missing or get abused, because the culprits get away with it.

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lilbijou:

indigenous-rising:

true.

hi, indigenous sex worker here, please lets not make blanket statements like this cause beleive it or not some of us actually want to go into sex work and work in our field happy and healthy and abuse free. this is not to say that there isnt a problem with kidnapping of our women and being forced into sexual slavery isnt important, but we need to remember that some us go into sex work willingly and arent abused. i dont like how im indigenous and a ex worker and immediately someone thinks i was forced into my work???????? like???????? idk yes we need to talk about sexual slavery involving our women but we can do so without making blanket statements like this thank you

thank you for extending this conversation. Editing my statement now, that it is true that some indigenous women go missing and some get abused.

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7 years ago

Have some sort of "security" procedure - whether it's having a bodyguard nearby, or having your work appointment times/locations known to someone you trust (so if you don't check in by X time they know something might be up), make sure you plan that part out before you take any clients. If you trust several friends with what you're doing, maybe even do a "dry run" of how a good (and bad) appointment might go, so you can test your own plans? If you're happy, and you're safe, it's all good :)

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I do not have any friends, or anyone I could consult about this, but if I pursue sex work I will be as safe as possible.

7 years ago

But what if going into sex work puts your child into danger? Not because your job, but the people- some people- in it, whoare there not for the right reasons.

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If I do get into sex work I will have to come up with an alias. And keep my personal life secret.

7 years ago

As someone who does sex work, I just want to let you know that you have to be very carefully. A lot of times assholes force you to do things against your will or don't even pay you after they fucked you. I carry a small knife with me nowadays, so make sure you take precautions. Good luck!

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Thank you for the advice <3 I hope you are safe and respected

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7 years ago

I agree with everything in the respect post but!!! also remember that just because you go into sex work doesn't mean you lack self respect or are somehow being disrespectful to others. Yes, respect isn't the most important thing but you don't have to lose it either- you can be active with your sexuality and still be comfortable with yourself. wanting to provide for you daughter should not make you feel ashamed!!!

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it doesn’t and yes, this, exactly^

There is nothing shameful about getting involved in sex work; there is nothing but shame for these individual’s abusers.

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7 years ago

I'm not sure if you want to be a dancer orr escort or what but whatever it is, please be safe, and don't let others bring you down. Also, please don't involve any men in the business side of it (as anything other than clients) bc they WILL take advantage and dehumanize you. Be safe, be well, and do what you need to to ensure a good life for you child, but do not do it in such a way that you sacrifice your own life (figuratively or literally), because that would devastate your daughter.

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Thank you <3 I haven’t decided yet what I am going to do but I would be as safe as I can be in any situation.

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7 years ago

Why would you wanna be a sex worker?

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Because some people make more money in one hour than I would all day, sometimes all week long. I want to be able to make money within a small time period so I can spend the rest of my day devoted to my child.

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7 years ago

I didn't ask the question but I want to be too. I emailed an add for porn casting this week.

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Be safe; please? So many people in the porn industry are abused. I respect your choice, and I hope you are safe and treated with respect.

7 years ago

I have a very weird question, Snowy. I'm curious, is it possible to consider yourself an intersectional feminist (and womanist) and still enjoy pornography? I consider myself both, but am I being a contradicting hypocrite because I also enjoy pornography? Especially being a WoC, I understand how much women, especially WoC, are subject to disgusting fetishization in the industry. Is it possible for me to be a feminist who enjoys porn, as long as I'm critical of it?

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I really do not know the answer to this and I hope that someone can help us both to understanding this better*

I understand that many people, and especially women, are exploited/raped/abused/subjected to injury and illnesses/fetishized/+ in the porn industry. I respect a consenting adult’s choice to be involved in sex work; however, I realize there is a difference between getting involved in sex work out of necessity, desperation, choice, and being forced into it (sex trafficking). The demand of porn may increase the numbers of individuals kidnapped into sex trafficking.

I am very ignorant on this topic so I hope that someone can help us to understand this issue: does watching porn/buying porn promote the exploitation of individuals involved in sex work?

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7 years ago