I’ve been asked by a few bloggers to speak about the bullying taking place in the tumblr ndn community and after days of thinking about how to word this I cannot come up with anything helpful or profound.
1. the online indigenous community(communities) are here to extend emotional support, provide some information, share ideas, feelings, and experiences.
2. you do not have to trust everyone, or anyone, because really anyone can get online and lie about themselves. And anyone can be a predator.
3. If you do not trust someone you have every right to ignore them, block them, and/or ask them to not contact you.
4. You have a right to converse with people online who want to converse with you too.
5. You do not have to tell anyone your name, age, location etc.
6. You can feel suspicious about someone who does not put their information out.
7. You can feel suspicious about someone if they say something harmful.
8. You can recognize that some indigenous peoples are connected to their cultures and that some indigenous peoples are not connected to their cultures. You can recognize that indigenous people can fall anywhere on the spectrum of connected to disconnected.
9. You can recognize that indigenous peoples can be mixed race and that some indigenous peoples have black skin, some indigenous peoples have blonde hair, etc, and they are all valid.
10. When someone makes a post about someone being a pretendian, and too often doesn’t show or have any proof of their claims, that is bullying. If you believe so strongly that someone is lying about who they are you have every right to block them, ignore them, but when you create posts about them in an attempt to invalidate their identity and turn other people against them that is bullying.
11. There absolutely are people who are bullies in the indigenous communities online. Sometimes these bullies will ask you for information about yourself. Sometimes they will come to you for help on finding out info about their own family so that their identity as indigenous feels stronger. A bully will turn on you and make up rumors about you. Sometimes they are so scary that someone else is afraid to speak up and defend the person getting bullied, fearing that they would be the next target. That person would probably be the next target. Bullies are insecure. Insecure. That is why they bully others.
12. There is a difference between keeping a community safe and bullying people.
13. Be true to yourself. Respect yourself. Be secure with who you are and the journey you are on. Do not hurt others.