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Apparently it’s okay to be hateful towards cis, heterosexual, and white people because queer people are slaughtered every day. My mistake. I was under the illusion that everyone was equal and so should be treated so regardless of what’s going on in other parts of…
It was sarcasm. I’m well aware of the lack of equality. But no. If you want to apply that logic it should be completely fine that I hate trans people, because once I was told I’m faking my gender for attention by one trans person. Once a bottle was thrown at my face -it missed- by a complete stranger because of the way I looked, so I should hate all middle aged men. I should hate all mothers because my mother once told me that I’m going through a stupid phase and I can’t change how I was born. I should hate many people because of my oppression but I don’t. You cannot overcome oppression without forgiveness. You cannot fight hatred with hatred. We will never solve anything that way.
Individual acts of prejudice or cruelty does not mean that all the people who have been cruel to you have an oppressive power over you. White, cis het people do hold a position of power, and are the oppressive power. Forgiving an oppressor never made the oppressor kinder or less oppressive. Saying that hating one’s oppressor is fighting hate with hate sounds like shaming a victim, as if the victim is just as much to blame because they hated their abuser. Hating someone(s) who deliberately hurt you is not being petty, or just as bad.
I’m not saying that rape victims are to forgive. I’m not saying you have to personally forgive your oppressor but you cannot hate a whole group of people based on skin colour, sexuality or gender. This is what we are fighting against. It disappoints me to see people who I know personally have together lives and do not personally receive threats, violence or direct oppression feel that it is perfectly just to practice the type of hatred they are claiming to be against. I don’t care that cis people are not going to be attacked on the streets like others will be it is still unjust and if not challenged creates the sense that this behavior isn’t wrong and unfair.
Hating one’s oppressor and/or abuser is survival. Being kind to an abusive and/or an oppressive person does not make them think twice about how they themselves should be kind, it tells them that they aren’t in the wrong and that their cruelty will be tolerated. Being kind to an oppressor is siding with the oppressor. shaming people who are oppressed, by saying they are equal to or even worse for being “hateful” towards their oppressor, is to silence them, to invalidate their feelings, and to say that their abuse and oppression should be tolerated.
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