I'm half white, and half Ojibwa. I look more European then I do Native. I identify with Ojibwa, but my parents don't. They indirectly tell me to conform, and pretend to be white. I'm 16, and I have enough blood count to join my tribe, but my mom doesn't want me to. I just don't know what to do, can you help me out?
Asked by Anonymous
I will always be here to listen and care; I cannot tell you what to do. All I can do is suggest that you follow your heart. There is a huge pressure for all people of color and mixed race poc to conform and assimilate to white cultures. Some people may find it safer to do so ( i have relatives who are so afraid that they conform too, although they are not white passing ). I can understand their fear and I can understand that what is best for them is not always what is best for me. I would suggest truly understanding where they are coming from; shame and fear are traits to be empathized with. Would your family be interested in seeking counseling? To discuss shame and assimilation in a supportive environment?
~Wishing you the best.