(Same anon that asked you for advice on first-time sex awhile ago, sorry, I'm a shy follower.) Okay, my boyfriend (who've I've been with for two years and we are very in love and ready for this) have everything covered as far as an intimate setting and protection, but I'm wondering if you have any suggestions for first time positions? I always thought missionary was the standard position for such acts, but others have told me doggie style is actually less painful and awkward.
Asked by Anonymous
I really wish I could help you with this but I’ve had some horrible experience with sex, so please don’t take my “advice” as law, okay? I would suggest missionary or you on top of him so that you can control the speed of the penetration. Both of these positions allow you to make eye contact with your partner which I think would make it more special. As far as the pain goes using a lubricant can help reduce the amount of pain you will experience. When intercourse begins stop for a moment, with him inside you, and let yourself adjust before he fully enters.
There will be some awkwardness as you and your partner try to find a comfortable position and good rhythm but arousal helps calm those insecure moments, so have lots of foreplay.
I don’t know if any of this helps but my inbox is always open. I wish you well <3