How “perfect” do I have to be for it to be the rapist’s fault and not my own?

Below: Rape Victims and Survivors Shaming Questions/Comments:

“If you were more physically fit you could have fought them off…”

“What were you wearing?”

“Maybe you should have been carrying a weapon…”

“Maybe you should have taken self defense classes…”

“How did you treat them? Did you smile at them before…?”