idk what to do

Dear followers and visitors,

I am uncertain about what to do about something that happened in class today; any advice would be appreciated. In one of my college classes, Critical Thinking to be exact, we were broken up into random groups in order to perform a task together. There were three men and two women in my group (including myself). The other woman and I were talking to each other, because the classroom was rather loud and we were seated very close to each other, and because the three men were unintentionally excluding us a bit. While we talked one of the men in our group put his foot upon this woman’s back and when she turned he said “now that I have your attention, this is what I wanted to say…” He didn’t apologize for nudging her with his foot. After he was done dictating to this woman she turned to me, rather upset, and asked me if I had seen what happened. She went on to say that she was upset. I asked her if she wanted us to tell the teacher, or if she would like me to talk to this guy. She refused by saying “it is no big deal; I am just overreacting”. But what she?

I don’t know what to do or how to handle this situation. I don’t want to take action and cause her more distress, but I feel like that guy needs to be spoken to. What should I do?

Mon, Sep 30th 2013 at 16 PM
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  1. novinophobiac-blog reblogged this from indigenous-rising and added:
    She is not over reacting. Some people do not like being touched and he invaded her space without asking. And that is not...
  2. meeresbande answered: Shes def NOT overreacting. You should respect her wish. Assure her that she has a right to be upset, DON’T do anything she doesn’t want, tho
  3. dthemod answered: I don’t know. I do think he shouldn’t be allowed to get away with this but if she doesn’t want to tell…
  4. hellosomegirl answered: I would of told the professor and addressed the him in front of the group of his inappropriate behavior.
  5. sufferingzen said: That’s so gross, and I’m sorry you’re in this position. She was definitely not overreacting, and your confirming that to her could be helpful. You could also talk to your professor about it and say you’d prefer it to be an anonymous complaint.
  6. gradeaus answered: I don’t think she was overreacting. I would start by talking to the guy if he does something again, and talk to teach if he doesn’t stop.
  7. pushenkw answered: i think it would be best if you were to tell your professor about it, and ask him to do something about it, as if he’d seen it himself.
  8. fiberandfumes said: maybe ask her if it’s ok to talk to the teacher about it without mentioning her specifically. what he did is really not ok and should be addressed, imho
  9. 50shadesofmyblackass said: Do something like that again. srry if this made no sense, ran out of room.
  10. defunctpage answered: no advice but seriously outraged at this mans actions!!
  11. 50shadesofmyblackass answered: disrespectful, especially in a college classroom setting Have no clssrm exp w/ that but he does need to be talked to not to
  12. depigmenting said: You could try privately messaging the fellow asking about his invasion of space, but he sounds like he’ll chew you out for not taking a “joke” instead of learning anything.
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