The moment you start talking about “white tears” or act like tears belong to a specific race, you are no better then the racists you hate.
when a person from an oppressive group insults someone from an oppressed group it is more harmful than if a…
Black people are still being oppressed. And White people do not experience racism.
How are black people still being oppressed? And saying white people can’t experience racism is utterly ignorant. Racism is a two way street. It does NOT only apply to non-white people.
White people are the oppressive group, not the oppressed.
And Black people are being oppressed in many ways. Some of the ways here in the U.S. (but not limited to) is police brutality, excused hate crimes against Black people, extended prison sentences, segregation in real estate, poverty, systematic racism, institutionalized racism, and more.
Grouping all white people as oppressive is racist.
And I wanna see some GOOD facts on those.
I Don’t Think You’re As Marginalised As You ClaimThis tactic is related to Your Experience Is Not Representative Of Everyone but is a far more hurtful and therefore effective weapon.
If the Marginalised Person™ is gaining steam in the conversation, beginning to persuade others to their point of view, even getting a few Privileged People® around you to apologise and concede their “mistakes”, then is when you drop this bomb: call into question their Marginalised™ status.
It allows you to once more diminish their experience by disbelieving it, as well as reinforces that “othering” we’ve already discussed.
If you’re in a situation with a person from a non-English speaking country who speaks, reads and writes in fluid English (particularly if so much so you assumed at first they were native English speakers) you must insist this means they received a special sort of education (probably in an English-speaking country) that is denied to their country folk and this means they’re simply not qualified to talk about life in their home country – they’re too Privileged® to really understand.
Or if you’re talking to a Person with Disabilities, you must derisively claim they can’t be all “that” disabled because, if they were, they simply wouldn’t be able to communicate so well with you. Or, you know, think at all.
It’s great to whip this one out on sex workers too – if a sex worker is making the claim that sex work can be a positive and empowering choice or the issue isn‘t the work but the stigma levelled at it, you absolutely must say they are obviously a very Privileged® sex worker because “real” sex workers are always degraded, hate their jobs and are forced into it.
The really important thing is to establish some sort of false Marginalisation Hierarchy™ where the person you’re speaking to couldn’t possibly experience anywhere near the sort of stigma and discrimination everyone else from their group does. This way you can force them to provide “evidence” of what they’ve dealt with which you can just disregard and further dismiss as more “proof” they are actually really Privileged® examples and therefore have no right at all to be speaking.
Do be sure you strike a careful balance though – whilst you must make it clear you consider this Marginalised Person™ to be Privileged® you must be sure you nonetheless indicate they still are Less Than You, so be as disdainful and contemptuous as possible.
This step is just outright sleazy, which is what makes it so fantastic to use: it will have an effect rather like a punch to the gut on the Marginalised Person™, causing them to sharply inhale as they reel from your sheer arrogance and cruelty. Denying their Lived Experience© must never be underestimated as a strategy – remember: being dehumanised is exhausting and this will increase your capacity to win!
From Derailing for Dummies. You must have like 10 copies of it
bornabitch-allthedaysandnights is brilliant.