You are never a bother and you do not sound ignorant. I am assuming from this message that when your parents split you went with your mother? Please correct me if I am wrong. And that your mother’s culture did not include your father’s culture. To that I can only say is: find your way back home.

How do you find your way back home?

• Research everything you can on the internet and buy books online, that relate to your culture. You need to know your people’s history, language, beliefs, practices, etc.
• Buddy System: if it is possible, find an elder who can take you under their wing, so you can learn what they know. (even if this buddy is only online, it is worth it)
• Participation: Attend events that are relevant to your culture/your father’s culture. Ask questions about conduct, with your Buddy or the people you meet.
• Network: This is similar to the buddy system but expanded. I know it can be intimidating, but reach out to your elders, to your community. Make as many friends as you can who can help guide you or let you participate (appropriately).
• Create it: If there are no places that can assist you, such as an educational office, then start your own “club”. I work for an American Indian Education Office. I teach native crafts and dance. And these services are free and public. I am aware that we do not branch out everywhere.
• Remember: to keep your culture alive and pass it on.

I know there is much more to preserving culture perhaps I should write an article about it (that contains greater reflection then this quick message has).