what you said was "i don't respect women who don't respect themselves"

what you meant was "i and society as a whole hold women up to ridiculous respectability standards directly relating to the "purity" of said women while hypersexualizing them at the same time and if you are a woman and don't fit my awkward monolith of criteria then i refuse to acknowledge your humanity"

what i heard was "hi i'm a misogynist piece of shit, please punch me in my face"