what you said was:
"i don't respect women who don't respect themselves"
what you meant was:
"i and society as a whole hold women up to ridiculous respectability standards directly relating to the "purity" of said women while hypersexualizing them at the same time and if you are a woman and don't fit my awkward monolith of criteria then i refuse to acknowledge your humanity"
what i heard was:
"hi i'm a misogynist piece of shit, please punch me in my face"