What is it like to have a pale skin child? I'm pregnant with a white man's daughter and I'm worried about her feeling excluded and having a skin difference.
Asked by Anonymous
I would start talking to other mixed raced individuals about their experiences. I am mixed race and I still feel a disconnect of I am too ___ to be in this group, and too ____ to be in that other group. What am I? The sense of belonging that I lacked is the hardest part. I was raised Native, and my community accepts me, but my parents are involved in Native politics and when I go I feel like people are judging me and think I am not enough to be there.
My daughter tells me daily now that she hates her skin. Her best friend is African American and has dark brown skin, and most of my family has coppery color skin, and she feels like an oddity. So the hardest part is witnessing your child go through self-esteem issues. Just be there to love her for everything she is, celebrate all that she is, and help her feel accepted.
Congratulations on the baby!