Summary: Kristi of STFUMRAs insists on grouping trans women with cis men, attacks people who call her on transmisogyny, doesn’t collect transmisogynists on her posts, and invites another mod to spew the same transmisogynist beliefs.
Warning for this post for transmisogyny, misgendering, cissexism, menstruation, genitalia mentions, pregnancy and abortion.
Kristi made a deliberately transmisogynist, antagonizing post grouping trans women with cis men and then got angry when someone correctly tagged it “transmisogyny” and “cissexism” and demanded to know why.
The bolding is mine. Kristi is not simply ignorant and her transmisogyny is not accidental, she just seems to think that if she gets mad enough, she can get the definition of “transmisogyny” changed.
Her defensive and nasty response didn’t actually address the problem:
“Oh the irony I am referred to as a uterus bearer when people discuss abortion, in fact I got yelled at for taking issue with that term. “
I’ll copy paste the relevant point from the transmisogyny masterpost here:
“ 28) Kristi makes an angry post about the term “uterus owners.” When called on the obvious cissexism (because there’s a specific context in which those terms are used, and it’s not when people just wanna say “women”), she attempts to backpedal and claim that her REAL gripe is just the phrasing, which should be “people with uteruses.”
If so, why was she ever yelling about wanting to be called a woman in the first place? Why was a response in which she says “Oh I am so sorry I want to be referred to as a woman BECAUSE I FUCKING AM ONE” deleted? Her original post is tagged “and I know not all women have a uterus”, so basically she’s aware of when the term is used, how it’s used, and that it’s not just cissexist and misgendering people to insist on using “women”, it’s not inclusive of cis women either!
Instead of addressing any of that, though, she doubled down on her ignorance, deleted posts that would look suspect, blocked people calling her out, and made post after post after post about it, where she changed the story from her having randomly complained about “uterus owners” to her having been directly called a “uterus bearer” (there’s a reason the reblogged comment chain in the second link is all TWERFs).
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I’d like to add to this ^ that she had been claiming trans women had male privilege around the same time, a context she keeps trying to divorce these posts from.
Further, someone not listening to her yelling about how you must say “woman” when discussing abortion has nothing to do with THIS current conversation, but bringing it up makes it very clear that this is more about revenge than making any real point.
“I can’t say dick havers, as some trans men have penises, therefore I
refer to people who produce semen as semen carriers/bearers so as not to
exclude trans women etc…. when I say in no uncertain terms, that they
should have absolutely no say or opinion when it comes to abortion
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If Kristi’s point is that only people who can get pregnant should get to have an opinion, then why not say “people who can’t get pregnant”?
Kristi has previously used the excuse that her trans men mods at femfaction find including trans men in posts about menstruation, abortion etc. triggering to misgender anyone who is not a woman but who menstruates, can get pregnant etc., so why the sudden “concern” for trans men being included now?
And no, she didn’t have a negative word to say to the many TWERFs swarming all over the post. Kristi is quick to leap down the throat of anyone saying she’s a transmisogynist, but she somehow never feels the need to argue with transmisogynist followers.
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Kristi brought in someone to say the exact same things she’s always saying, because “she has been bullied into silence on this issue
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Asking someone to stop spewing ignorant, damaging opinions that are used to justify violence against trans women is not “bullying”, any more than anti feminists are being “bullied” by being told to stop being misogynists. Crying that backlash against them for their transmisogyny is harassment and bullying is a favorite tactic of TWERFs.
Kristi seems to be under the impression that if someone else says what she believes, on her blog, with her permission, she can’t be held accountable for it (see: femfaction).
You cannot say you are in-person friends with someone, allow them to mod your blog, never object to the bigoted things they say and then expect people to believe you’re not a bigot yourself because you didn’t say those exact words, particularly if you’ve said similar things and have the same views!