I am so angry right now. I was with my mother for a couple minutes and she managed to invalidate me, insult me, and wish me harm all within a couple minutes. She was listening to a talk radio show where the host was saying transgendered peoples have no right to go into the bathroom of their choice. My mother began with “ I know you think you are one of them but” (I know who I am thanks) “these gays and t**nnies-” (gee thanks for the dehumanizing slur) “are taking away the rights of normal people, you know, straight white people” (you mean the oppressive group? And I was unaware that there were no white people who are transgendered hmm) she went on to say that straight people are being oppressed and that gay people and transgendered peoples have more rights now than straight people. Her argument was that if a straight person (again because no transgendered people are straight, right?) and cis people aren’t allowed to complain if they see a person who is transgendered enter their bathroom. And that transgendered people are murderers and will kill the women in the bathrooms.. (As if transgendered people aren’t murdered all the time just for being themselves, and as if there’s any real danger or mass murders committed by transgendered peoples)
It was so cruel, invalidating, and just plain wrong. She’s so wrong. And she always tries to confront me with her transphobic hoping I will justify it for her. Have I ever gone to her saying she should die for being cis? No. She has said the same to me though. Have I told her she, and people like her, ruins this world? Nope. Have I ever told her that her mere existence is evil? No. But I have to hear her say that I am one of the evil people who are ruining the world and that I should die. Then I am supposed to be nice to her.